Good Conversation

I've been on ten dates without any good conversation. I'm sort of baffled, where has passion and good talking evaporated to.

First there was the 2 hour walk through central park where we talked about the weather. Simply talked about people on park benches and well, nothing. He told me nothing interesting about himself and I in turn tried to nudge the conversation to something a little more interesting, such as the color of socks in winter. Yes, I was truly trying for topics, because earlier in the two hour span of walking, I tried the then current war in the Middle East (I mean, war in Middle East now-a-days can mean anything and anywhere) yet I drew a blank stare. I gave up.

Then there was the blond hottie and cute cuddler, who just wanted to make out and chill, which was totally fun for a while. Then well, turned pointless.

After that came the video game addict.

But for some reason, all these 10 boys have all wanted to buy me something.

I also, like to ask people questions about who they are, what they do, how do they like they're jobs, maybe find some sort of connection. Any connections to actually, find out if I like the guy. During this 10 date process, most of my questions were greeted by one word answers, i.e.

I ask: "what do you do?"
Silence, birds chirp, I check out his cute little nose.
cute boy: "Accounting"
I think I hear siren, some
He stares forward, I sigh a little - shake my head, smile
He looks at something in the distance
I ask again: "How do you like it."
Cute boy buys me lollipop

I think I need to stop dating, just drinking. Or maybe I should attend a poetry reading. Hold on, only dirty old men that sleep next to their gin martinis go to that.

Comments

[closetalk]

hehehe.. a lollypop, eh?
u mean to say ALL ure dates were like that - slent?! *grin*
oops... mebbe my giggling is in bad form - but i DO mean a *hugs* here!

[durante vita]

The idea about the old man at the poetry is one I've heard before. Truth is, I've met quality people when I've volunteered, gone to professional events, etc.

[Professional]

Where are you meeting these ppl? You don't look half bad yourself, I'm sure u can do better, just keep at it :)

[Kiks]

Oh, trap your shut... in fact, never trap your shut. Dating is good. Only a few people on this world are lucky enough to find a someone worth dying for at firs go. You gotta dig a bit more. You'll get lucky sooner than you might expect.

[Jeffrey]

Conversation is indeed a lost art. I sometimes wonder if people have just become less curious in learning about others or if they confuse real-time human conversation with the charges associated with text messaging; hence speaking as if they were texting. I'll happily chat you up next time I visit NYC. You sound like an interesting guy and I'm intrigued with the framework for your play.

[John Michael]

Hey there...I just came across your blog and I thought it was great! Had to comment on this because I totally agree with you here. The amount of bad dates I've gone on lately is absurd. What's happened to the men in NY??? The most interesting city in the world has some of the most uninteresting people in it! lol
Take care!