Juggling Men

I don’t think I can ever master the art of dating multiple men. I don’t think I even want to. I guess one of the reasons I’ve held off even trying to date is because I don’t want to deal with the inevitable moment. I call it the “why doesn’t he call me moment”. I’m a really confident, quite assertive person. For some reason when I like someone that goes instantly out the window.

I turn to putty and I can’t help wondering when the boy will call. That’s when insecurity raises its ugly head and I just can’t seem to get my head from out of the sand.

Besides I’m a really busy person. I can’t really deal with juggling men, I’m also no good at it, I’ve done it before. I’ve had up to five going at the same time, yet I don’t ever seem to get what I want, the minute I need a flow chart to keep track of what’s going on, I loose interest. I can’t develop interest in even one of the five guys and the relationship doesn’t work. I guess this is the moment, I’ve realized, for me, dating multiple men is not a good thing.

I’ve seen lots of guys; go on more then one date in an evening. I’ve done that before actually. I’ve met a guy in the afternoon for coffee, then a guy in the evening for dinner. With the guy that I’ve been more interested in, getting the evening slot.

Yet not once has this strategy turned into a long term relationship. So now I’d much rather take it easy. I’d much rather go on a date with one guy I’m really interested in, then many guys at the same time. There I said it. I’m waiting. Although mind you, that moment might change really really quickly, if the guy I gave my number to last night, actually calls.

I’ve also had guys tell me, much later, when I’ve given them my number and they haven’t called. That they’ve explained and need to justify that decision, with the phrase, “I didn’t call you because I thought I could really have a relationship with you.” That phenomenon is to be explored another time.

Comments

[Charlie]

The trick to dating...hmmm, I'm not sure if I will ever be able to master it myself. I have tried the multiple dating thing, or the lets have sex first than exlore what we have in common method. Now, as I approach my thirties, I think my priorities are changing, I'd rather try to get along with myself, and discover what I like about myself, than try to get someone into my world out of a drastic need for company.

Dating is fun, but if you want my advice...the more effort you put into it, the less you are going to get out of it. Don't think, just do!