Negotiating for Sex

A few years ago when I was dating a few men. Well serial dating a few men. One of the surprising challenges was negotiating for Sex. Most of them were under a lot of stress. Yes I'm going to mesh them all together and just call them The Serial Dates. So The Serial Dates were always under stress. I on the other hand found and still find a playful nature to relive and hard worn day. They didn't. That's one of the many reasons that the relationships never worked. So again. I'd like to say that I've learned and that's one of the reasons that I've been single for so long. Anyway. I would nudge them in bed do a little pouting and convincing. Never worked. Sigh. I'm mentioning this because I don't like to date more then one man at a time. I like to take them in stride. I know I should, yet I've tried and it just doesn’t work for me. I have friends that manage to date a few guys at a time I on the other hand just feel guilty. It's back to the stress thing. I'm over dating men that just focus on themselves. Recently I meet a guy that said I was a great guy. He kissed me like I haven’t been kissed in a long time. One of those swooning kisses that one can get wrapped up in and just melt. He detected the fact that I wanted to see him again and was open to a relationship. The reason given was simple. This cute boy was to impressed in his own life, "I have to much to deal with right now." I've been given that excuse a few times. In the past I've tried to work it out. I've tried to be supportive. Now I'm over it. I mean, everyone has a lot going on in their lives. It's constantly stressful. I'm really scared that I'm risking so much in my life. It doesn’t stop me from being open to the possibility of something real. So I let the cute boy go. I didn't get his number. I gave him mine after a really great night of making out intensely on my really comfy couch. It was really nice. I'm not putting much stock in seeing him again. I'm very conscious that I can't convince anyone to have a relationship. So if he calls. I'll be happy, if not, I'm sort of over not getting my needs met. If they're ever so carnal at times.

Comments

[Rob]

hmm I head that expression before, "I have to much to deal with right now" What they really mean is umm I am not into you for a relationship but thanks for the sex. Wouldn't it be nice if guys could just be honest instead of playing the games. Even if he calls after that statement why waste your time?