As I sit in the Big Cup, I can't help notice the notebook computers; lots of them. Yet when I walk about and take a little peak at some of the screens. I notice gay.com and manhunt.net predominantly featured. I'm always at a loss, because the men surfing these sites in the coffee shop. Well they aren't lookers. I can't help wondering what their little online pictures are like. The little tabloids posted.
They don't really talk, they're focused on the screen, clicking and finding people online. Somehow, I always want to go up to one of them and ask. "Why don't you just walk up to someone and say hi" Yet in the great outdoors of NYC, people are surfing for a hook up in a crowded room. Isn't that what bars are for.
I like watching their faces sometimes. Intent actually; full of sexual energy and anticipation. There's one guy in the far corner that's trying to cover up his screen, he's got shifty eyes. I like these men, I don't mind them. I actually find them fascinating. But I can't stop wondering. Why can't they talk to each other in a crowded room?
For some people, that initial online contact probably helps them overcome their insecurities and fears. Their social skills may be lacking or they may just have too many bad experiences in their pasts. It doesn't make them any less worthy as people. It's just who they are.
Posted by: Jess | April 26, 2005 at 11:32 AM
I once saw someone cruising Manhunt, AT THE BATHS.
True story.
(BTW, I found you through Will @ Designer Blog)
Posted by: Joe.My.God. | April 26, 2005 at 04:22 PM
For me it was the rejection factor. In my hook-up days (in a relationship now), I could NEVER find a hook-up at the bar. I always dropped my eyes and thought, "he wasn't looking at me." ON line I am chatty and able to overcome my fear of rejection even when rejected. It is like there are 30 guys lined up in a row and I can pick from the line. Some may not want me and others will. In the bar setting if someone told me no I would just give up and go home defeated right then...just my take on things. It is funny though that they are at the cafe surfing...why not just do it at home?
Posted by: scott | April 27, 2005 at 12:54 AM
First off: THE BIG CUP, or as my friends call it 'the big slut'. Not a bastion of high intellectual pursuit--much more a centre of quasi-fabulous individuals coming down from the tina binge.
And then the manhunt/gay.com thing. Some guys just don't want the intimacy, but love the sex without strings.
Is this really the guy you would want to pursue? If so go for it. Otherwise just order your coffee and move on.
Posted by: Gary | May 05, 2005 at 12:43 PM
This is well known that money can make us independent. But what to do when somebody does not have cash? The only one way is to try to get the business loans or collateral loan.
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