The Message Game

Skye's been dating a guy that's been too busy. Simply too busy. He's starting his own firm, he's thirty, they hit it off in a bar a while back. They communicate on AIM, that's how they keep in touch and set up their dates, text messaging each other where they're going to meet. It's sweet.  They have dinner and drinks, hang out, sleep together. They're following the rule; communication.

The rules of the message, yes there is a rule. Returning the call on time. I'm an insecure bitch. When I like a guy, I like hearing from him. I'm not talking every hour on the hour. No. I'm talking in a timely manner. Dating is about communication. It's about learning about the other person. One of the things quickly learned - is. He who does not return phone calls, cheats. Yes cheating and phone calls can be wrapped into the exact same kitten kaboodle.

Also text messaging, if a text message is not received in a few hours, you know, your simply not on his mind. I do ask this, when I'm dating. "Have you ever had a boyfriend or been in a long term before?" Those that have been in a long term. They know the importance of this rule. It shows interest. Building trust.

I know it's hard to get past the first steps to building a relationship. Yet a simple timely message shows interest.

Comments

[Derrick]

ya know, that's wierd. because i don't fit into that. and i've gotten in trouble for it. i don't call everyday. i don't return txt messages until i remember to. well, these are behaviours i used to have. because at some point my dates would be all like "why did it take you so long to contact me?" or "why didn't you call me all day?" see, i don't have much LTR experience and, in terms of myself, it wouldn't bother me necessarily to go a day without talking to my boyfriend. i dated this one guy once who had to see me EVERY day. he was always coming over or calling or emailing me. it was sweet at first but it's like...damn, can i breathe? haha. i realize that people like to know that you care and everyone likes to feel special so i try not to think of it in that way of "well, i wouldn't care if he didn't call me for a few days" and just try to get myself to remember to drop an email or an IM or a phone call every now and then if i'm into a guy. it just makes it easier, and like i said people like to feel special sometimes and there's nothing wrong with that.

[Mark]

Is a "kitten kaboodle" the young kind of pet cat owned by gay guys with too much baggage?